What Prevents Happiness In Love
It is usually hopeless and detrimental to your self-esteem to force a romance in which you pretend to be happy just because you are afraid to let go.
There is no mystery in the formula of true love. As the classic wrote, "All happy families are alike." If you are comfortable with being yourself when you are alone with your beloved, you are in the happiest relationship with a favorable prognosis for the future.
Nevertheless, not everyone is able to reveal themselves to a partner - many are hindered by upbringing, acquired complexes, fear of loneliness. Let's analyze popular but harmful thoughts that impede successful unions.
I'm afraid I won't meet anyone else
The great Persian philosopher Omar Khayyam adored women, but even he understood that it was better to be alone, "than with just anyone." The formula "Endure - fall in love" does not work these days, including for money. Sooner or later, you will be flooded with regrets from the "Oh, if only" series, and you will begin to feel nostalgic about the lost opportunities and look outside of the relationship for interest. This, by the way, concerns not only love, but also friendship. If your relationship initially encourages you not to get to know each other, but to adapt, the chances of successful development are very modest. By compromising your personal interests and persuading yourself to be patient in order not to return to loneliness, you risk directing your story to a sad ending.
The perfection of relationships, romantic and platonic, is that when you are one on one with your parnter, you feel so confident that you show all sides of your true self. It is openness that defines a close and healthy bond, and at the same time assumes that you do not like certain things in his / her character and habits, and sometimes you can annoy each other. Such nuances are absolutely normal and only confirm that happiness looks different for different people because everyone has their own ideas about trust and comfort. Of course in some rare cases it's possible, like in the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, but remember that it is usually hopeless and detrimental to your self-esteem to force a romance in which you pretend to be happy just because you are afraid to let go.
I CAN GET BETTER / MAKE IT BETTER
Sounds weird, actually. That is, you admit that the person is not suitable for you, but you choose him anyway. Almost like "I want this dress, it is cute ,not sure about it, but I can lose weight." What's the point of buying if it doesn't work right now? What if, when you lose weight, you find a cooler dress? What if you don't lose weight? Before you decide to pay for this dress, you may not have had such a thought ... The honest self includes all the flaws. When entering into a relationship for which you hope to change, you must recognize the vulnerability of such a partnership. Do you think you enjoy being the one or the one who is not good enough? For years? It is often a matter of time before you reach the point where you are ready to accept all the pros and cons. An impressive percentage of reunions of former partners confirms that those who have overcome the maximalist stage, where it is important to present themselves or their partner in an ideal light, are ready to create strong couples.
EVERYTHING MAY CHANGE
There is a positive side to this approach for those who believe in self-development and a sincere dialogue with a partner. You can only change for love in tandem. The idea is not too unrealistic, although it requires fabulous patience. And, like any joint project, it often helps to find the keys to trust. Basic advice: Wait enough time before getting married until both of you are sure you are ready spend the life together. This implies that you got a good look at each other and instead of spending energy on conquering mythical frontiers, you quit the struggle to be yourself or you part ways.
What To Do if You Want to Spice Up Your Sex Life?
by Charles T.
When you have been with someone for a long time, your sex life can become a routine or rather 'boring.' When things start to feel monotonous, it is a good idea to spice things up. This can help improve your relationship, in and out of the bedroom. Also, getting frisky with your partner can enhance your mood by reducing anxiety. If you want to get frisky and shake things up, here are a few tips.
Try Something New
When your sex life becomes predictable, it is hard for you to look forward to it because you know what to expect. You can start by trying new sexual positions. According to the Kama Sutra, there are about 64 positions you can explore. All sex positions begin from three points, namely;
Facing each other vs. rear entry
Lying side by side, lying stacked or standing Either him or her on top. From there, the rest are simply variations of the above. For instance, during the rear entry, she is bending over the bed with him standing behind. You can also try reverse missionary or reverse cowgirl. If you do not find trying sex positions fun, you can revert. However, it is best to be open-minded to have more fun. You can also introduce role-play or sex toys every once in a while.
Try Some Light BDSM
BDSM stands for "bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism." It can range from your partner holding you down lightly to handcuffs and whips. Here, the partner who enjoys the thrill of power can be dominant, while the one who enjoys the rush of helplessness is submissive. When starting, you can go for simple acts like tying or blindfolding each other or with a silk scarf. Avoid a slipknot because it can hinder proper air circulation. BDSM comes with a 'safe word' where, if one feels uncomfortable during the act, they can say it so that the partner stops what they are doing.
Dirty Talking
Most people find it uncomfortable to talk dirty in the bedroom. However, it can help spice things up when you are tired of a routine. The trick to talking dirty is being in the moment and saying whatever emotion you feel. Do not shy off from telling your partner what you want to do to them or what you want them to do to you. At times, being animals in bed is just what you need.
Get Out of the Bedroom
Sex does not always have to happen in the bedroom. Take those sex sessions anywhere in the house, especially if your privacy is assured. Your options include the sofa, the kitchen table, shower, the swimming pool, on the floor, against the wall, in the car, etc. Explore! Sex outside the bedroom is spontaneous and hot, which makes it exciting. Also, there is the possibility that you have had sex outside the bedroom when your relationship was still early. How about reliving those days?
Spicing things up in the bedroom will have to make an effort from both of you. Sex is essential, and it is one of the things that keeps your relationship firm. You also do not have to wait till your partner voices their dissatisfaction in bed for both of you to take action. Spice things up and enjoy an exciting sex life.
