The Desire for Pleasure and the Pleasure Itself
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One of Arthur Schopenhauer's most famous phrases is: "life swings back and forth like a pendulum between pain and boredom." And we do. Humans are desiring beings who strive to obtain things from the world. Behind this striving is a lack of something. But once that desire is achieved it rarely makes you fully happy, because of every satisfied desire there are number of others, waiting to take its turn.
It's almost like the desire for pleasure and the pleasure itself are opposite. There are things we desire that must be achieved to survive, like food and water. But once we are lucky to have that, we become bored and we begin to desire for extra things like luxury, nicotine, drugs, fashion things.
Most of us desire to be in a healthy, in a long-lasting relationship and have a fulfilling sexual life. But desiring is one thing and actualizing it is a whole other apple. Sure there might be love and commitment. But, this isn’t enough to fulfill the desire of being in a relationship. Relationships needs hard work, but it is worth it at the end of the day.
Desire feeds the physical intimacy needed to nurture connection. If desire fades in an intimate relationship, the couple become more of housemates or colleagues. Yes, love can still be present, and they might even have sex. However, when there is no desire, how a person sees and feels themselves changes, and that will certainly reflect on the relationship.
So desire is the protective guard around relationships. But then it doesn’t stop there. You can desire yourself and your partner. However, you need more than just desire to sustain a relationship. Fulfilling a relationship requires both individuals to contribute actively to one another’s happiness without expecting anything.
You must invest time and energy into the relationship even as you invest in your self-growth and development. This way, you will achieve self-fulfillment and a fulfilling relationship. Investing in a relationship, even as you invest in your personal development, brings satisfaction and fascination. Your relationship will become better with time, and you will live a fulfilled life.
What If I Don't Want to Live in a Modern Society
Modern life can be depressing, and sometimes a primitive life feels like it would be fulfilling and a healthier alternative. Today almost everyone sells their time for wages. People are falling into depression because of pressure from their employers. Modern life has been linked with higher rates of depression, obesity from poor diet, and a sedentary lifestyle. Modern society is obsessed with possessing perpetual wealth. People have no time for families, friends, or hold real feelings for each other. Today everything is a competition.
It sounds retrogressive to hold the view that living in a world without the internet, computers, and automobiles is far better than modern life. I am convinced that people in the medieval period lived a more fulfilling life than the modern society. Clearly, modern people are more prosperous than people in the medieval period. Still, medieval people enjoyed plenty of free time with families and friends and had sufficient healthy foods from their farms.
Today, almost everything is unauthentic, from processed foods to young people feeling lonely when they have 100k social media friends. Modern life is complicating our life with unrealistic perceptions of fulfillment, and the best we can do is to disconnect from social media and connect life again. We gets so lost in online life that we forget to live our real lives.
Eliminate gadgets, turn off push notifications, don’t stress yourself making your profile perfect,give yourself 30 minutes to connect on social and then live a real life, interact with real people, and be awesome in the real world!
Spring Clean Your Mind
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With the changing of the season comes an opportunity for a new perspective on life. It is time to free your mind of the clutter that has invaded it for the past few months and resolve to approach life with renewed vigor and energy. To do this, you will want to clear your head and, in essence, spring clean your mind and get it ready for a fresh perspective. Here are some ideas that will help you do exactly that.
REST IS KEY
Take some time to just rest. Clear a few days on your calendar and resolve to sleep in and make sure that you get eight to ten hours of sleep. This will allow your body and mind the time it needs to feel rejuvenated and ready for any new tasks and challenges that might come your way.
FOCUS ON EXERCISE
A great way to clear your mind is to engage in some physical activity. Not only will this bring you a number of health benefits, but it will also lead to a stronger and more vibrant mind process. People who exercise regularly are found to perform better on tests of mental acuity and memory. This will go a long way towards your effort to spring clean your mind.
MAKE SURE YOU ARE EATING RIGHT
Now is the time to examine your diet. Consuming the right foods will help to clear your mind and rid your body of harmful toxins. The healthier you feel, the more likely you are to think clearly and approach life with the positive mindset that you need to be successful.
These are just a few of the ways that you clear your head and prepare for the new season that is right around the corner. Remember that it is all about perspective. If you can maintain the proper mindset and minimize stress in your life, your mind will be ready to tackle any problems that it might face.
How to Deal with Agression on Social Media
Taking public jabs at others while avoiding personal confrontation is a new norm for communication today, thanks to social media. Following recent events in Ukraine and Russia, unfiltered hate, violence and anger on social media makes it impossible to contemplate. Simple explanation is that fear provokes aggression in people and not everyone is capable of handling it. Psychological well-being is something that more than half world's population struggles with daily. When you're a victim of such circumstances, you'll be glad to know that there are solutions to such problems. And so, while some fight cognitive warfare, let's explore strategies for combating negativity alongside improving your overall psychological wellbeing.
Avoiding negative
Simply walk away: if individuals around you are those with the mission to spread negativity, then walk away, let them cooldown and ensure you don't cross paths with them whatsoever.
Avoid arguing with a negative person: You should know that a negative individual won't regard your point as valid. So it's no point engaging in an argument you won't win. Otherwise, you risk exposure to pessimism.
Block negative people on your social media: if you're friends with negative people on Facebook or following them on Instagram, cut those ties as your physiological well-being is more important than their pessimism.
Recognize the negative parts of life: as much as you'd prefer a life where there aren't negative people, positive people and negative people are two sides of a similar coin. So, it's crucial to differentiate positive from negative people and know who to associate yourself with.
How you can improve your psychological well-being.
Control your stress
Learning to cope with stress through; relaxation, meditation exercises, and visualization can significantly help in improving your psychological well-being. On the other hand, stress is beneficial in moderate levels, i.e., improving productivity, alertness, and memory if triggered in short episodes.
Doing physical exercises
Research indicates that regular physical exercise can help improve your psychological well-being. Some of these psychological improvements physical fitness can reward you are:
- Reducing anxiety
- Improved mental functionality
- Releasing tensions like anger
- Eating right
You should know that consuming foods saturated with elements like sugar, fat, additives, and pesticides can significantly impact your brain's functionality. Eventually, you'll have poor mental health. But if you adopt a healthy meal plan, the perks of that are endless, and you'll have yourself to thank.
If you are struggling with your overall mental and psychological well-being, the solutions outlined in this article should catapult you towards living a stress-free, positive life.
Friendships: Quality over Quantity
Feelings of happiness are easy. Happiness is not. Flirting is easy. Love is not. Saying you’re friends is easy. Being friends is not. - David Levithan.
There are life lessons our parents teach us, life lessons we learn on our own and life lessons that only our friends can teach us. Friends are essential in our lives and while many friends have exparations dates,very few remain with us until the end of our days.
As children we don’t really choose friends. It's very quiet simple at the young age. Those who smile and play with us automatically built a friendship with us. The one that hangs around the most automatically becomes the best friend.
In adulthood the dynamic of friendship shifts because, as we mature we develop our own unique personality, needs, wants, and therefore just a smile is no longer enough.
The environment we are in, be it school or work, narrows down the list of friends you can choose from by default, just by virtue of the fact that you are in that environment.
Quality over Quantity
There are people who find value in having a lot of friends. The fact that they can confidently invite over twenty friends and post the gathering on social media allows them to fill their mind bubble with desired popularity. It allows them to feel heard, wanted and liked, factors that are most likely missing in reality. The truth is, not everyone can garner that many friends, unless you start giving out "ice-cream" in the forms of a job, free amenities, giveaways, etc.
And then there is another kind of people who find value in having as little friends as they possibly can. These folks guard their friendship circle so strongly because it is built on trust, love, respect and loyalty. Majority of the time, such friendships can even comprise of as little as two people. It is quite rare for this kind of friendship circle to get past five individuals. Having a whole bunch of fiends to hang out and party might look "great" from the outside, but having a few strong individuals in your inner circle who you can always count on is the real deal.
5 Style Trends Set for 2022
We look at five key fashion trends that are set to dominate 2022 – from a return of feminine cuts, sequins, and florals to sheer and cutouts.
With the world changing so rapidly, it is essential to stay ahead of the curve and pre-empt what will be popular. In this article we look at five key fashion trends that are set to dominate 2022 – from a return of feminine cuts, sequins, and florals to sheer and cutouts.
Feminine florals
Floral prints are set to make a huge comeback this year. Floral dresses and skirts will make a statement on the catwalk, as well as make their way onto high-street rails everywhere. From midi dresses to crop tops, floral print is all over the high street right now – keep an eye out for it in the future as it is not going anywhere anytime soon.
Glitter
Just when you thought sequins were on their way out, they're back again in a big way. Elaborate dresses with large sequin sections are set to impact next year. No longer solely glamourous items for the stage or nighttime, sequins are more subtle but still hugely popular on high street pieces such as shorts, skirts, and blouses.
Cut-Outs
Cutouts are not going anywhere and set to be big in 2022. From dresses with cutout shoulders to dresses with open backs and even more daring designs so you can show off some skin, they will be prevalent in 2022.
Sheer fabrics
Sheer fabric is here to stay for 2022 too. It's been a popular choice for many designers already; it has been worn by celebrities across all red carpets recently. Wearing pieces made from this lightweight material makes you look cool and of the moment while at the same time making a statement.
Long Sleeve & Leg Fashion
Anything that has both short sleeves and long is here to stay for 2022 to give you maximum versatility in your wardrobe. From shirts right through to dresses, long sleeve cuts with leg splits are set for 2022 - keeping you cool when it gets hot (and warm when it gets colder).
Conclusion
With 2022 set to be the year of the 'sheer look' and amazing florals, the year will truly feel like a year of re-invention. Make sure you jump on these style trends before they become mainstream by shopping our range online today.
Friends Before Lovers
Relationships are sensitive matters that you must always consider with a sense of seriousness. Before you become lovers with anyone, you first have to become friends. Being friends first means that you will set the essential boundaries and rules about what is acceptable between you and what is not permitted. The both of you will also be able to determine what you are comfortable with the other person and what you are not satisfied with. When you have these facts established, you will decide whether you should move on to the next stage of your relationship.
Before you become lovers, being friends first means having a stable foundation to base your continued relationship. The fact that you are friends also means that you will have more in common with each other. The convergence of your interests will be significant in determining whether you are compatible with each other and whether you make the best romantic match.
Whenever you are looking to be in a relationship with someone, do not feel pressured or forced into anything. The good people will linger around for longer, but the people that are baying for your blood and simply out to hurt or destroy you will be there much faster than you would expect. Once they have done their damage and left with the wind, you will be at a loss, and most of the time, you will find yourself blaming yourself for having fallen in love too fast.
No matter the kind of personality you have to deal with, friendships enable you to set your parameters for the potential relationships you are likely to have. When you are friends first, you will determine what you are comfortable with and what you scream from the inside when you feel it near you.
Once you are comfortable with the friendship, you can take things slowly and bit by bit. You will be more familiar and confident in the other person. Starting a relationship in this way also ensures that you can understand each other, and there will be nothing to get in the way of the both of you being honest with each other on some issues such as sex.
You will also be more open about all the issues you face and solve your problems more amicably. This way, your romantic relationship will benefit both of you, and it will be able to last for much longer as opposed to a one-sided relationship where it is only the one side that benefits.
How to Turn Awkwardness into Attraction
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It’s fascinating how quickly a situation can turn awkward. Whether you are on a date or hanging out with friends, getting stuck in an awkward position isn’t an enjoyable experience. However, the good news is that you can turn awkwardness into attraction with the following tips.
1. Laugh or Smile It Off
It can get pretty awkward when somebody is teasing or making fun of you. By laughing or smiling it off, you neutralize the environment. Also, people look much better when they smile, and this can make you more attractive. As amazing as being cheerful is, don't fake a smile.
2. Never Make the Mistake of Portraying a Defeated Body Language
Slouching, and fidgeting are examples of defeated body language. These make the situation more awkward. No matter what happens, always retain open body language. When you keep your chest, torso, and abdomen open, this boosts your attractiveness, and it can immediately put a stop to an awkward situation.
3. Call Out the Awkwardness
Such situations are often characterized by periods of silence where both parties are afraid of admitting how awkward things are. When you step up and acknowledge that this situation is uncomfortable. In the minds of the other person(s), they will adore how bold you are. By admitting that a particular situation is awkward, both parties can take the necessary recovery steps.
4. Avoid Making Negative Assumptions about Ambiguous Comments
If a person’s comments are unclear, don’t rush into making a negative assumption. These can easily make a situation awkward. Some of us read a little bit too much into a person’s comments. Always ask for clarification.
5. Lesson in Life - Nobody Cares
Your insecurities can quickly drive you into an awkward position. You have to understand that no one cares about some of the things you are worried about. When you embrace this lesson, you will be confident, and this, in turn, makes you very attractive.
Awkwardness and attraction will never exist simultaneously in the same room. You have to choose one, and the above tips can help you with that. Learn to radiate positive energy, and you will never feel awkward about any situation.
How to Forget Your Ex
When a relationship ends, it can be devastating. In fact it is often compared to coping with the death of a loved on. You may be wondering where you went wrong, or blame the other person. All by yourself you may start wondering if you can go on without your former partner. Fortunately, you can get through this difficult time and have a brighter future ahead. Here is how.
Grieving Is Natural
When you and your ex part ways, grieving is natural and normal. If you truly cared about this person, you will feel a sense of loss. Your life will feel empty when he or she is no longer around.
If not hanndled properly grieving can become dangerous. Denial Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, the five stages of grief. If you do not reach a stage where you accept the relationship is over, you can fall into a deep depression. The good news is loss of a relationship does not mean your life is over. There are steps you can take to avoid depression, and enjoy a happy life.
How To Forget Your Ex
The end of a relationship is the time to focus on yourself! When you are single, it is an excellent opportunity to explore, experiment, and have fun!
Today, you have time for hobbies. Perhaps there was an activity you enjoyed in the past, but set it aside when your partner came into your life. Perhaps you never took up a hobby at all. Whether you want to start up an old interest again or try something new, there are plenty of resources to come up with ideas. There may be classes at your local gym or community center, information online, or people in your life who can help you find something you will enjoy. Crafts, cooking, music, art, adult courses, and exercise classes are only a few examples.
Think of the end of your relationship as the beginning of your new life, your future ahead is full of possibilites and can be exciting and worthwhile!
Public Display of Affection: The Dos and Don'ts
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Public displays of affection, commonly known as PDA, are those romantic, affectionate acts you do with your partner in the presence of other people. While you have ample freedom to do whatever you want as lovers, if you have to embrace public displays of affection, make sure all you do is consensual.
Here are some dos and don'ts of PDA:
DO: Hold hands
Holding hands is a nice bit of PDA to remind each other about your presence. It is also an excellent way to guide each other in crowded spaces.
DO: Have a charming little goodbye.
Being in love can and is hard to control. At the moments when you are set to be parted, a cute hug or a peck on the lips or cheek is enough PDA.
DON'T: Make out, we did not ask for that
DO: Look out for/comfort each other.
Holding hands to comfort each other in public is normal, it’s not rude or makes noone uncomfortable.
DON’T: Give food to each other in restaurants
Sorry, but this is the truth; nobody is interested in seeing your public displays of affection, particularly when feeding each other in public places.
DON’T: Get in other people’s way
While it is perfectly okay to display your relationship publicly, it should happen without obstructing others.
DO: Cuddle during a picnic or on the grass at the park.
DON'T: Get down and dirty under the picnic blanket. No, no.
When it comes to public affection display, there are a few things you can do and others that ought to be saved for the heat of the bedroom. Well, there you have it.
5 Reasons Why People Cannot Stop Copying You
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If you have achieved a great deal in life, you will meet many people who praise, admire and recognize you. However, you will also meet copycats who have no idea of their own. Their objective is to copy your ideas, devalue your achievements and try to put you down. If you have encountered such people, you should be very cautious. Do you know why people cannot stop copying you? Here are some of the reasons:
Recognition
People who are confident and strong set themselves apart from the crowd. However, those who are insecure feel the need to copy others to be recognized. People who have no identity of their own tend to copy others to be recognized.
Jealousy
Have you ever had a friend who pretends to love you but deep inside, they hate you for no reason or because of the much you have achieved? Please do not be worried because they end up being copycats. Some people can copy your ideas and plans because they are jealous of your achievements and developments.
Admiration
Sometimes people copy you out of admiration. While this is a good approach, they are still copycats because they do not follow their ideas nor become creative. It is not wrong to admire someone, their personality, or what they have achieved but copying them is.
Threatened of you
If you set goals and achieve them within your time plan, you will obviously threaten your competitors with your success. If you are in the same niche, you can find some people copying everything you do because they feel threatened. Remember, by copying what you are doing; they think they will succeed or surpass too. However, they do not know that we are all different and cannot excel the same way.
Praise
If others praise you, some people can feel threatened because they have low self-esteem. Since they have a hidden stealing syndrome, they opt to copy you and get the praise themselves.
If you find people copying you, you should protect yourself by ignoring them and continue being you. Finally, it is essential to focus on yourself because you know what you are doing, your goals, and the roadmap to success.
Meet Your Happy Chemicals - Chapter 1: Endorphin
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Dopamine, Endorphin, Oxytocin, Serotonin - meet your happy chemicals. We decided to approach them one by one to help you understand how we humans work and how to keep ourselves happy. Our first candidate is Endorphin.
Endorphins can be described as one of the most important hormones in the body. Its primary role is to ease pain, while also controlling your emotions by making you feel calm and/or happy.
You may describe this hormone as an internal medication for the body which provides a special boost.
The body can produce endorphins in a number of different ways. Want to know how to naturally produce endorphins so that you can control your own emotions?
Here is how:
- Laughter - Laughter helps to enhance oxygen intake and is known to stimulate the lungs, muscles and the heart, while also boosting your endorphins. Find that one friend who makes you laugh, watch your favorite comic. These days TikTok and Instagram Reels are a great source of laughter as well. Give it a try. Thank us later.
- Exercise - aerobic exercise is considered to be a neurochemical base that reduces the stress hormones in the body. These exercises will also produce natural painkillers in the body as it also produces endorphins in the body. Watch Perfect - a movie about a reporter for Rolling Stone who was researching an article on L.A. fitness clubs, starring John Travolta and Jaime Lee Curtis. The 80s Aerobic Workout Video just recently went viral. This might motivate you to join the aerobic's class and reduce stress hormones.
- Sweets and Chocolates - sweets and chocolates are linked to the production of endorphins. And, as these endorphins are activated, these hormones can make the person feel good. Grab your favorite Sees or Girardelli candies and satisfy your sweet tooth. After all you just excercised in a bullet point above(wink)
- Engage in social activities that you enjoy - People who are involved in social networks have a higher tolerance for pain. This is because the boost of endorphins make the person feel better in mind and body.
All of these self love activities and more can help you boost your emotions in many different ways. And, they are highly recommended for people who are trying to fight off chronic pain as well as get through traumatic times in life. Try to remain positive no matter how hard things get. Therefore, if you or someone else you know needs a burst of energy, one of the best ways to get started is by exercising different parts of your body on a daily basis and gift yourself with chocolate from time to time while watching a funny movie or a goofy tiktok clip, all to help you laugh more.
Going Through Divorce Gracefully
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The abrupt end of marriage can leave you blindsided and disoriented. It can get so bad that we forget that no matter how hard, everything should be handled with grace. According to several sites on physical and mental health, divorce can be compared to the feeling of death and coping mechanism that kicks in is similar to when coping with death. It's very easy to get angry and act ungracious. To avoid that and come out of it like a strong and graceful lady you are, you need to understand 5 different stages of emotion one goes through and how to handle it. Though they may not in particular order, these are emotions people go through until they get through it. To help you cope with it and cope gracefully, familiarize yourself with each of these 5 emotions and what triggers them.
Denial - because you can't process what's happening
Anger - the feeling of helplessness fuels anger
Depression - caused by sadness, grief and loneliness
Bargaining - the "what if" stage, struggle to find answers
Acceptance - you come to terms and find clarity
Now that you know what these stages are this process will actually appear normal. When you begin to recognize each stage give yourself a break by working through it versus getting stuck in one stage. Understand that right now you can't process what happened, it's easy to deny the fact, but reality remains. It's ok to get angry. Find a way to get the anger out. Avoid calling your partner, screaming, cussing. Don't take the anger on loved ones either. Feeel free to go outside and break a plate, scream on top of your lungs, let the anger out, but do it privately. Then raise you head, walk back and remain calm. If you are starting to feel depressed, it's ok. Understand that this is an unavoidable part of the process. Don't give up on yourself, take care of yourself instead. Add beautifying procedures, excercise, come up with a diet plan to be healthy. It's a perfect time to get the support that you need and want. Don’t fall into the trap of isolating yourself from friends or family, specialists, support groups. It's part of life, it's part of the process, and most importantly you are not alone.
And ones you begin the process of accepting that the divorce has become a part of your past, begin to explore new interests my friend to help you grow and move on quickly. Life is precious!
How To Make Love Passionately
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What does it mean to make love?
Making love is the act of expressing your feelings of love through sex. Making love often involves emotions, romance, and intimacy. Please ensure that you and your partner are comfortable with the method you chose to make love. If it is your first time, you may be wondering how to make love. This guide will help you make love passionately.
Beginner steps to making love
• Please make sure that you are emotionally connected and that your partner wants to make love. You can strengthen your emotional connection through words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, gifting, and spending quality time together and.
• Prepare your partner mentally. Communicate with your partner about the date, location and set the mood for sex. Keep actively communicating suggestively with your partner to avoid creating anxiety that comes with silence.
• Have sufficient foreplay with your partner through passionate kissing and caressing their erogenous zones until they are ready for the act of sex.
• Agree with your partner to make love in a way you two are comfortable. Sex may happen in different ways, such as vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, hand-to-genital contact, and partner masturbation. Be active and responsive during the whole session and let your partner know when to try something else. Tell your partner what feels good and what is not working for you.
• After making love, make your partner feel comfortable; smile, flirt, laugh, and cuddle your partner.
What to do
- Use a condom and dispose it safely. If it bursts, take contraceptives and seek medical advice.
- Please pay attention to your partner and respond to their needs Don’t be selfish. Be real and respectful.
- Say no if you have changed your mind or get uncomfortable when making love
- Play slow and sensual music to set the mood. A glass of wine can help
What NOT to do
- Don’t assume your partner is safe.
- Don’t fake the love, emotions, or orgasm
- Do not force things
- Don’t make love when too drunk; it may impair your judgment. For example, you may end up forgetting to put on the condom.
Why Do We Dress Up?
Why dress up? Yes, it's fun to be seen, but it also feels good. If that's not enough then you must remember what you wear changes what people hear you say. Let say you're riding a bus to see a friend and not exactly sure about what bus stop you should exit on. You ask a neighbor sitting right next to you. He is wearing sweats and t-shirt with an oily stain on it. He looks as if he forgot to take a shower. He tells you to exit in two stops. Another men, dressed in suit, a trench coat and a hat overhears your conversation and tells you that you need to exit on the next step. Whom would you listen to? Most likely the men who is well dressed. The point is, if you want people to listen to you, dress the message.
Emotions - Change in Wear According to How you feel
Our emotional state plays a huge role in the outfit we wear. If you thought clothing only influences others, you're wrong. Your outfit is a reflection of your emotion. That is why some of us even change outfits few times a day. Note for yourself what you wear on a positive morning and what you wear when you wake up tired and grumpy. Women who are happy and positive will most likely wear a favorite dress and perhaps even spice it up with jewelry. Women who are sad or depressed will wear baggy clothing or jeans with a sweatshirt. Experts say you're most likely not going to want to wear an outfit you wore during a hard situation.
Sense of Self
Dressing up reinforces your sense of self. In times like today throwing on an outfit for work Zoom call helps to motivate and concentrate. Bloggers around the world dress up and post selfies in front of the mirror. Why? It helps to regain happiness. We dress up to communicate with the world what we feel. And often times those who do it well influence others.
Attention
The lack of attention that often comes from childhood is another reason why some dress up and those people are easy to spot. They love highlighted labels on their clothing, it screams luxury, it screams rich and unapproachable. In reality these individuals are often lonely and in need of love.
Have I Been Ghosted?
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Ghosting has grown to become a very familiar term in the society. If you are just getting back to the dating world, the term ghosting might be a bit confusing and that’s what we are going to discuss today.
What is Ghosting in the Modern Dating World?
It refers to the act of cutting all sorts of communication with a person you used to be friends or had romantic connections with. If you were seeing someone for a while and everything was going on smoothly, then all of a sudden they stopped responding to your messages. Unfortunately, you may have been ghosted.
Why Do People Ghost?
It is normal to feel sad after someone you cared about ghosts you. And this may send you down a spree of thoughts, trying to think about what you did wrong. However, it really doesn’t have to do with you or your personality. Here are common reasons why people ghost;
• It is their attachment style. Some people instead of craving long-term intimacy, opt for something casual so that they can remain independent. • Online dating is a bit impersonal, therefore people rarely make strong bonds and this makes moving on easier. • They don’t see the relationship working out. • The communication wasn’t very smooth in the beginning. • The person doing the ghosting may be too busy with work or other commitments. • He/she wasn’t into you.
How to Overcome Questionable State of Mind When One is Ghosted?
Ghosting is wrong. And in the mind of the ghostee, one can feel heartbroken and confused. If you have just been ghosted, you need to take a look at the reasons why people ghost. Do you see a pattern? The main reason why a person ghosts you has got everything to do with them and not you. That’s why you should avoid blaming yourself.
Instead, choose self-care. You may feel lonely but remember, there are other people who love and care for you. Hang out with friends, attend parties, set up family dinners, or visit a distant cousin. These are things that will help you overcome the questionable state of mind when one is ghosted. If these thoughts start to interfere with your life, consult a therapist.
How To Age Gracefully According To Giulia
Statistics say that people today are living longer than ever before. But the list of challenges that comes along with aging still exist. Some people tend to age better than others and the question remains why? What causes some of us to age gracefully and others not so much. Here are a few tips that that might help you age gracefully.
Tip #1. Stay Connected With Friends and Family
Stay connected with family, loyal, genuine friends and people in your community who bring you comfort and joy. The emotional comfort that you get is equivalent to endorphine ( aka the happy hormone) that your body needs and benefits from.
Tip #2. Mind Your Diet
Today’s grocery shelves are filled with lots of junk food. Junk food that’s high in cholesterol, calories, carbohydrates and other ingredients that can adversely affect one’s health. However, though this is true you want to eat only healthy foods so that you can protect your overall health. For instance if you want to be energetic as you age, you need a diet that is balanced with iron and other nutrients.
Tip #3. Exercise
Most of us cannot wait until the retirement age just to sit around and do nothing, this is the opposite of how you should really spend your many years of retirement.
Exercise is great for a number of reasons. With the right kinds of exercises, you can protect your heart, build muscle, lose weight and remain physically fit throughout the year.
Tip #4. Get Up Dress Up And Show UP Get up every day and do that skin routine, make it shine. Dress up, even if it's just for yourselef or get out there and shock the world with your sense of style. And finally enjoy the day.
Tip #5. Lower Your Stress If it's chronic stress is speeds up your aging process. Remember it results in inflammation and contributes to Alzheimer’s Disease. Various studies show that it can add years to an individual immmune system.
Tip #6. Quit Smoking And Drinking Be kind to your skin. You skin is your body's largest organ.
Aging is inevitable. Some people find it difficult to accept. Remember staying positive, happy, stress free, taking care of your mind and soul is the first step to success of aging gracefully
Love In The Time of Corona
Today, the whole world has been thrust in the arms of a wide range of challenges. Basically, everything that people do has changed dramatically. As everyone gets older, the foundation of their lives has been affected, including how people are choosing to stay connected during corona. From talking to loved ones on their mobile phones to communicating with family and friends via text messaging, the technological advancements available during these periods of lockdowns have been very beneficial.
Though there is nothing like direct human communication live, some people are still looking for creative ways to meet new people. This is especially true for people who are searching for a mate that they will not only date but can make a life commitment like marriage. That being said, here are some safe ways that people can find new potential friends to spend time with.
Each one reach one - Old Fashioned Virtual Meetings
If you want to be safe while meeting new people, there are many ways to meet new people and stay connected. For instance, if you really want to meet other people out of your present circle, join a group that requires invitation only. Simply stated, ask a friend or family member to introduce you to a virtual group with people who have a common interest. Just like you may be invited to a physical social gathering, you can be invited to virtual gatherings that you can attend, too.
Be the host of a Group and Invite Friends that know other Singles During Quarantines
Again, if you want to meet people in a safe manner, you can be the host. In this way, you can always control who attends, while also meeting people that your friends and family are already close to or acqainted to.
Agree to Virtual Meetings and share common interest that you like
If hosting your own group is successful, you can always keep in touch with these new acquaintances. For instance, you may want to keep in touch by skype and other means of communications before and after corona.
Meet in Your Local Restaurants that's Open for Eat-in **
Even though some places are not allowing people to eat inside of their establishments, others are making the necessary arrangements by complying with the latest corona regulations. So, if you really want to meet with new acquaintances, you may want to consider the places that will allow you to eat-in.
Today, with all of the mandates and quarantines that people are experiencing all over the United States and abroad, meeting others is a challenge within itself. Also, because most people are considered to be social beings, the need to connect with one another is not a luxury but necessity. Therefore, if you really want to make sure that you can overcome these disruptions in your social life, you need to make safe plans with people that you already know.
What Women Search on the Internet Will Make You Laugh
Google has significantly changed the world ever since it was founded. And now, we can’t seem to live without search engines. These platforms have every information from celebrity gossips, to buying guides, to health content, name them. But have you ever wondered what women search for online? You’ll be surprised that some things they search are weird and funny. Let’s look at some of these things.
How Many Cats or Dogs Can I Have?
Most women love pets. However, it isn’t easy to keep many of them, especially since some people may find them annoying. So when she thinks she has many, she’ll keep Goggle busy by searching this question.
What Will Make Me Pregnant?
Sex education classes aren’t easily available. And most women feel embarrassed to talk about what happens down there. So most ladies have turned to Google as their trusted teacher for pregnancy and period-related questions.
Is My Boyfriend Cheating on Me?
Almost every woman’s search history has this question. While we can blame the sites with such listicles, they sometimes help. But, most ladies often don’t trust the result generated. So maybe you should talk to him if you’re having some doubts.
How to Twerk?
You may be surprised about the number of women who want to learn how to twerk. Even those women who you think can’t google this question are doing so.
How to Cut My Hair?
You are probably thinking, why would someone want to cut their hair? Well, believe it or not, many ladies have googled this question. And those bold enough follow the steps given to cut their bangs.
Can I Lose Weight Overnight?
It would be nice, wouldn’t it? Unfortunately, many people have been trying to lose weight “overnight” for many years. Weight loss is among the things that everyone, even men, wants without struggling. So it’s not surprising to find this question on a woman’s history.
Googled Themselves
It sounds weird, but many women have done this. Most times, they are curious to know what information search engines have about them. And some are left in denial after reading through.
The Top Five Proven Habits That Lead to a Happy Life
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You only live once, so ensuring that you possess a happy state of mind should be a priority in order to live life to the fullest. There are numerous habits that can lead to a happier life. Nonetheless, there are five, in particular, that are proven to give a life a 180-degree turn for the better right away.
Make The Decistion To Be Happy
Every morning, you are the one who decides if you are going to be happy, sad, angry, or etc. for the rest of the day. No matter what is occurring, this is always up to you! Say to yourself . . . ‘Today, I am going to be happy.’ It is that simple. Put a smile on your face and get your day started!
Eliminate Negativity Once And For All
Negative people are ‘energy vampires.’ They tend to make others feel emotionally drained. Eliminate people who consistently do not support your ideas, as well individuals who make fun of you and try to put you down no matter what you achieve.
Put Yourself in First Place
It is okay to be selfish to some extent. You can care for others but ensure that you take care of yourself first. Self-care is extremely important to live a happier life. Remember to always make decisions that are going to benefit YOU.
Watch Programs That Make You Laugh
Laughter has been noted to be the perfect cure to enlighten your life. Watching comedy-based programs is an excellent way to acquire a happier state of mind.
Undertake New Hobbies
Occupy your mind doing something enjoyable. Undertake a new hobby and engage in it as much as possible. According to psychologists and psychiatrists, the mind can only concentrate on one thing at a time. Therefore, engaging in hobbies is a great way to forget about bothersome thoughts and to achieve happiness.
Live Life To The Fullest Starting Today
There is no reason to live life feeling unhappy. Begin living life to the fullest starting today by undertaking the previously mentioned habits that have been proven to transform lives for the better!
