Friendships: Quality over Quantity
Feelings of happiness are easy. Happiness is not. Flirting is easy. Love is not. Saying you’re friends is easy. Being friends is not. - David Levithan.
There are life lessons our parents teach us, life lessons we learn on our own and life lessons that only our friends can teach us. Friends are essential in our lives and while many friends have exparations dates,very few remain with us until the end of our days.
As children we don’t really choose friends. It's very quiet simple at the young age. Those who smile and play with us automatically built a friendship with us. The one that hangs around the most automatically becomes the best friend.
In adulthood the dynamic of friendship shifts because, as we mature we develop our own unique personality, needs, wants, and therefore just a smile is no longer enough.
The environment we are in, be it school or work, narrows down the list of friends you can choose from by default, just by virtue of the fact that you are in that environment.
Quality over Quantity
There are people who find value in having a lot of friends. The fact that they can confidently invite over twenty friends and post the gathering on social media allows them to fill their mind bubble with desired popularity. It allows them to feel heard, wanted and liked, factors that are most likely missing in reality. The truth is, not everyone can garner that many friends, unless you start giving out "ice-cream" in the forms of a job, free amenities, giveaways, etc.
And then there is another kind of people who find value in having as little friends as they possibly can. These folks guard their friendship circle so strongly because it is built on trust, love, respect and loyalty. Majority of the time, such friendships can even comprise of as little as two people. It is quite rare for this kind of friendship circle to get past five individuals. Having a whole bunch of fiends to hang out and party might look "great" from the outside, but having a few strong individuals in your inner circle who you can always count on is the real deal.
How to Turn Awkwardness into Attraction
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It’s fascinating how quickly a situation can turn awkward. Whether you are on a date or hanging out with friends, getting stuck in an awkward position isn’t an enjoyable experience. However, the good news is that you can turn awkwardness into attraction with the following tips.
1. Laugh or Smile It Off
It can get pretty awkward when somebody is teasing or making fun of you. By laughing or smiling it off, you neutralize the environment. Also, people look much better when they smile, and this can make you more attractive. As amazing as being cheerful is, don't fake a smile.
2. Never Make the Mistake of Portraying a Defeated Body Language
Slouching, and fidgeting are examples of defeated body language. These make the situation more awkward. No matter what happens, always retain open body language. When you keep your chest, torso, and abdomen open, this boosts your attractiveness, and it can immediately put a stop to an awkward situation.
3. Call Out the Awkwardness
Such situations are often characterized by periods of silence where both parties are afraid of admitting how awkward things are. When you step up and acknowledge that this situation is uncomfortable. In the minds of the other person(s), they will adore how bold you are. By admitting that a particular situation is awkward, both parties can take the necessary recovery steps.
4. Avoid Making Negative Assumptions about Ambiguous Comments
If a person’s comments are unclear, don’t rush into making a negative assumption. These can easily make a situation awkward. Some of us read a little bit too much into a person’s comments. Always ask for clarification.
5. Lesson in Life - Nobody Cares
Your insecurities can quickly drive you into an awkward position. You have to understand that no one cares about some of the things you are worried about. When you embrace this lesson, you will be confident, and this, in turn, makes you very attractive.
Awkwardness and attraction will never exist simultaneously in the same room. You have to choose one, and the above tips can help you with that. Learn to radiate positive energy, and you will never feel awkward about any situation.
How to Forget Your Ex
When a relationship ends, it can be devastating. In fact it is often compared to coping with the death of a loved on. You may be wondering where you went wrong, or blame the other person. All by yourself you may start wondering if you can go on without your former partner. Fortunately, you can get through this difficult time and have a brighter future ahead. Here is how.
Grieving Is Natural
When you and your ex part ways, grieving is natural and normal. If you truly cared about this person, you will feel a sense of loss. Your life will feel empty when he or she is no longer around.
If not hanndled properly grieving can become dangerous. Denial Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, the five stages of grief. If you do not reach a stage where you accept the relationship is over, you can fall into a deep depression. The good news is loss of a relationship does not mean your life is over. There are steps you can take to avoid depression, and enjoy a happy life.
How To Forget Your Ex
The end of a relationship is the time to focus on yourself! When you are single, it is an excellent opportunity to explore, experiment, and have fun!
Today, you have time for hobbies. Perhaps there was an activity you enjoyed in the past, but set it aside when your partner came into your life. Perhaps you never took up a hobby at all. Whether you want to start up an old interest again or try something new, there are plenty of resources to come up with ideas. There may be classes at your local gym or community center, information online, or people in your life who can help you find something you will enjoy. Crafts, cooking, music, art, adult courses, and exercise classes are only a few examples.
Think of the end of your relationship as the beginning of your new life, your future ahead is full of possibilites and can be exciting and worthwhile!
Public Display of Affection: The Dos and Don'ts
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Public displays of affection, commonly known as PDA, are those romantic, affectionate acts you do with your partner in the presence of other people. While you have ample freedom to do whatever you want as lovers, if you have to embrace public displays of affection, make sure all you do is consensual.
Here are some dos and don'ts of PDA:
DO: Hold hands
Holding hands is a nice bit of PDA to remind each other about your presence. It is also an excellent way to guide each other in crowded spaces.
DO: Have a charming little goodbye.
Being in love can and is hard to control. At the moments when you are set to be parted, a cute hug or a peck on the lips or cheek is enough PDA.
DON'T: Make out, we did not ask for that
DO: Look out for/comfort each other.
Holding hands to comfort each other in public is normal, it’s not rude or makes noone uncomfortable.
DON’T: Give food to each other in restaurants
Sorry, but this is the truth; nobody is interested in seeing your public displays of affection, particularly when feeding each other in public places.
DON’T: Get in other people’s way
While it is perfectly okay to display your relationship publicly, it should happen without obstructing others.
DO: Cuddle during a picnic or on the grass at the park.
DON'T: Get down and dirty under the picnic blanket. No, no.
When it comes to public affection display, there are a few things you can do and others that ought to be saved for the heat of the bedroom. Well, there you have it.
5 Reasons Why People Cannot Stop Copying You
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If you have achieved a great deal in life, you will meet many people who praise, admire and recognize you. However, you will also meet copycats who have no idea of their own. Their objective is to copy your ideas, devalue your achievements and try to put you down. If you have encountered such people, you should be very cautious. Do you know why people cannot stop copying you? Here are some of the reasons:
Recognition
People who are confident and strong set themselves apart from the crowd. However, those who are insecure feel the need to copy others to be recognized. People who have no identity of their own tend to copy others to be recognized.
Jealousy
Have you ever had a friend who pretends to love you but deep inside, they hate you for no reason or because of the much you have achieved? Please do not be worried because they end up being copycats. Some people can copy your ideas and plans because they are jealous of your achievements and developments.
Admiration
Sometimes people copy you out of admiration. While this is a good approach, they are still copycats because they do not follow their ideas nor become creative. It is not wrong to admire someone, their personality, or what they have achieved but copying them is.
Threatened of you
If you set goals and achieve them within your time plan, you will obviously threaten your competitors with your success. If you are in the same niche, you can find some people copying everything you do because they feel threatened. Remember, by copying what you are doing; they think they will succeed or surpass too. However, they do not know that we are all different and cannot excel the same way.
Praise
If others praise you, some people can feel threatened because they have low self-esteem. Since they have a hidden stealing syndrome, they opt to copy you and get the praise themselves.
If you find people copying you, you should protect yourself by ignoring them and continue being you. Finally, it is essential to focus on yourself because you know what you are doing, your goals, and the roadmap to success.
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